6 things every first home buyer needs to do
When Sue’s dad died she and her sisters knew that their mum would struggle to maintain the family home on her own. She suffered with arthritis and needed help to get around. Their parents had bought the house 45 years ago as a family home for five. It was too big for one woman in her late seventies. She needed something smaller, with a compact garden and people close by who could assist her quickly if she needed it.
Sue and her sisters had a place in mind. Her mum had seen it and had agreed to downsize, reluctantly. Now the time had arrived to organise the move. Sue’s mum was struggling. It was all too much, she kept saying. The packing. The moving. Leaving her home filled with memories. She was sad and angry. She knew it was the right decision but still she did not want to go.
Meanwhile Sue and her sisters faced the daunting task of sorting through possessions, packing, cleaning, paperwork, and finances. There were so many decisions, such a long list of tasks. They were juggling their mum’s move and emotions with their own feelings, jobs and families. It was exhausting.
Helping a parent to downsize from the family home is an emotion-charged experience. There is the practical element of moving which is exhausting in itself. Then there are the many mixed emotions that we feel when we transition from one life to another.
How do you make the process easier on everyone? How does Sue help her mum, herself and her siblings as they leave one life behind and embark on a new one?
These four tips will help.
Sue and her sisters will have some confronting conversations with their mother while they traverse this move; discussions about health, aging, safety, money and the future of treasured possessions. Emotions will run high for everyone. The important things to remember are:
If Sue, her mum and sisters are finding the task of sorting through belongings, organising a move and downsizing too great or emotionally overwhelming there are options. They might look to trusted friends or extended family who are not as emotionally invested to undertake specific tasks. Perhaps they have a friend or relative who is an excellent cleaner and another who can help to sort through and advise on books and paperwork? Seeking help from experts such as Senior Move Managers can also lessen the load.
Sue, her mum and her sisters successfully traversed this big move. They took their time, sought assistance and dealt with emotions and difficult discussions with love and care. Sue’s mum is enjoying her new home, has made friends with her neighbours and is looking forward to this next phase of her life. There is no denying that downsizing was a challenge for everyone but like all of life’s transitions, everyone has grown from the experience and you will too.
Guest blogger Ellen Jackson from Potential Psychology is a psychologist and specialist in fulfilling your potential. She writes online about human behaviour and why we do what we do. When she’s not at the laptop she’s talking to people at work about great people management and how to be resilient.